Can my state give me the boot?

Well, I don't have much time again today, but I still am sad that my home state won't claim me without my providing all kinds of proof that it is the place I want to call home.  Spouses don't get a "home-of-record" as the military member does.  I have always called my state home, and have only been a temporary resident of the many other places we have called home because the military has moved us to these places. My husband definitely has more of an attachment to my home state than to his own, anyway.   

I met my husband in my home state, married him in my home state but am not allowed to claim residency in my home state even though what moved us from home is the military.  I want to retain the right to vote in my home state without having to jump through hoops, too.  I can't help that we move all the time, and I haven't been able to vote in overseas elections, and don't want to vote in other states because those places aren't home.  I think spouses should be able to establish their own home of record, if they wish, too.  It seems only fair.  And in divorce situations would be more fair for the departing spouse, too.  

What do you think?